It may sound too simple, but best result I get is when I desaturate the red part, leave the selection there, and push (as in darken) the selection.
Better still: don’t flash direct, but put some "silk" foil over the flash. I mean the brushed type of silk. Put it over the flash with the brush strokes horizontal, so that a significant portion of the light goes toward the ceiling.
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