"Stephan" wrote in message
Peadge wrote:
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Cripes! Is he supposed to lurk for a certain period of time before introducing himself? >snip<
Tell me Peadge, if you join a group of people you don't know, let's say at a restaurant maybe, do you start by talking and talking more about you and yourself or do you lurk for a while and jump in slowly? Reminds me of The Cable Guy, did you see that movie?
Stephan
How do you know he hasn't been lurking for some time?
I understand what you're saying, but posting to a NG and reading responses is such a slow process saturated with a certain personal disconnectedness, as compared to slowing sliding over towards an interesting group at a bar or restaurant. There should be ample time (and distance) to choose to ignore the post completely.or lurk.
Doug's "entrance" apparently bothered you enough to immediately respond with subtle sarcasm. Opening up to a new group of people, as Doug was doing, is invariably awkward, and those of us who have been here for some time can either greet him as a fellow Photoshop user, or stick our collective foot out and hope he lands on his face. I usually give the person the benefit of the doubt, figuring he may well fall on his face without any help from me. Should that be the case, mine would likely be the first hand offered to help him back up. He may have some valuable knowledge to offer or cool artwork to share or a question that may prove to be a great challenge.
I usually visit several graphics-related and web design-related NGs for the sole purpose of helping people I don't even know solve problems. I've responded to a few off topic postings and found it is easy to find an argument and even easier to be drawn into them, like a feeding frenzy of vultures on a dead carcass. I'm fairly new to all NGs, having only subscribed to them in the last few weeks.
Your responses were quite subtle at first, but connoted a certain disdain for anything and everything Doug had to say or ask, including a legitimate NG-related question. Your disparaging remarks reminded me of an old Kung Fu episode where Caine is working on a railroad. Another worker rebuffs Caine for not speaking very much. Caine said something to the effect of, "If what one has to say is no better than silence, one should remain silent."
I know we all have bad days, and maybe yesterday's was yours. Hopefully when it's my turn, someone will slap me upside the head and say, "Hey! Don't slurp your soup!"
Peadge J